Tuesday, November 17, 2009

The feminist in me.

I'm back from a hectic class trip, & initially I figured I wouldn't blog today as I'm just too tired. So I sat to read other people's blogs, leave comments, & also reply to comments on my own blog. Then I decided to inspect the many labels on my blog. And realized, to my absolute shock & horror, that there's no post labeled 'feminism.'
That meant I haven't blogged much about the feminist side of me. Shocked? Don't be. I've been a staunch feminist since well over two years. I tried going bra-less (though that was a necessity at that particular time, it was also uplifting & empowering!) & I've also been a man hater at one time (And NO, I'm not a lesbian, though I support gay rights.) Basically I later realized that men & women need to find ways to co-exist peacefully without fighting or being too negative to each other. So I don't hate men as much now, & I've been able to even make friends with some (be warned, I still hate typical men if you know what I mean.)
Anyway, I introspected a bit to find why I didn't blog about feminism before, which is am important part of who I am. Maybe it was just to not pick a fight with any of my male blog readers (7 out of 12 are guys.)
So I'm officially announcing today, 'I'm feminist!' (though the 'about me' section of my blogger profile has stated the same since months!) 
I've never had a boyfriend. Teenage boys make me sick (for obvious reasons!). I do not harbor any 'romantic' dreams for the future, but I do hope to meet a guy whom I think I can grow old with. But I HATE guys who treat women like servants. Or think that they're inferior. There's this little internet joke I'd like to share. I've read it over a year ago, & it's been circulating around the internet ever since. So I cannot attribute it to anybody except 'the internet'. So here's the joke- 






Once upon a time, in a land far away, a beautiful, independent, self-assured princess happened upon a frog as she sat contemplating ecological issues on the shores of an unpolluted pond in a verdant meadow near her castle.
The frog hopped into the Princess' lap and said: "Elegant Lady, I was once a handsome Prince, until an evil witch cast a spell upon me. One kiss from you, however, and I will turn back into the dapper, young Prince that I am and then, my sweet, we can marry and setup housekeeping in yon castle with my Mother, where you can prepare my meals, clean my clothes, bear my children, and forever feel grateful and happy doing so."
That night, on a repast of lightly sauteed frogs legs seasoned in a white wine and onion cream sauce, she chuckled to herself and thought: I don't fucking think so !!!!!



I identify a lot with the Princess' character. I think I'm self assured, that's the main reasons I have never ever felt the need to have a boyfriend. (When I ask many of my girl-friends why they felt like having a boyfriend, they've often cited the 'everybody has one' or 'having a boyfriend is cool' reason. Not me!) Mom happens to be quite happy & proud of the fact. And many other moms are jealous too (seriously!)
I think I might be like Princess Mia from 'Princess Diaries 2: Royal Engagement' I hope to fall in love someday, but I don't need to have a guy to feel complete.

Cheers,

By Magali at 9:39 PM
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  1. "but I do hope to meet a guy whom I think I can grow old with."

    You might find more of the charming princes turned frogs. But you might miss out on that guy with whom you like to grow old with.

    So best is to know the inside out of a guy. And that can be achived through friendship(do not read Love).
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  2. True. I so agree with what you're saying.
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  3. Well, to start with I liked the way you expressed about you being feminist. You cited an example, you compared yourselves to a Princess and you are proud of being "Single" and so ur mom too is proud abt that fact. I liked the way you look at the life. Infact you are right, most girls at your age, if im not wrong 17+, would like to a have boyfriend for the only reason that everyone has got one, or it is just being cool. But once u grow-up your perception changes, your thought to have a Boyfriend will be to be "grow old with him". I was also like u. Now I am happily married and I feel complete now :-). Dont forget to drop me a word once u find the one whom you can grow old with, saying "Im complete with him"
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  4. Thank You Seema. Yes I am 17, gonna be 18 coming April. I seem to have found a kindred spirit in you. It's really nice that marriage as you describe it exists. To me it makes this whole 'love' thing (atleast the romantic aspect of it) worthwhile!
    Yes I will definitely send you a message if & when it happens. But don't expect it anytime soon ;)
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  5. Hi, Magali,

    I ventured to follow you through Google's Friend Connect, but there seems to be some problem with its configuration, here. Plz, get it corrected and do let me know so that I can come & join you, here.

    Cheers! :)
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  6. Magali,
    You are too young, so am I, to say that you hate men. I can give you excerpts from my own mother's life when she had to fend for herself when her father went bankrupt. She thought she could lead a life without "a man" in her life, but later on she did realize that life kind of gets lonesome, and being a loner is not nice. When she was young, most definitely, she felt she didn't need anyone to support her. But now, she thinks she is blessed and is quite happy with life (touch wood). It is OK (excellent in fact, because relationships can be quite distracting) to not have a boyfriend, but to be a total feminist with no give towards the male community is not a good sign. I am sure you would grow up to this institution of thought as you grow up. I know you have told already that you are relaxing your hold on yourself, but you need to shed that "thing" quite quickly.

    By the way, I found this post highly "mature". Good going Magali. I do not know how much of what I rambled made sense to you, but I thought I could take the liberty to say a few words of wisdom! ;-) I would love to see many such thoughtful posts here in the future. Wishing you good luck. Cheers.
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  7. I could have written a very neutral comment - but your post got my MCP juices flowing.

    Here's the deal kiddo, definition of life,love and Lucifer @ 20 is slightly different than @ 30,dramatically different @40 and non existent for many by 50. So don't be so sure just as yet that you won't eventually land up kissing the frog.!

    remember today's frog is tomorrow geek...or today's pig is tomorrow's bacon ! :-)
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  8. @Vittal- I know. So I don't hate men anymore. I just hate MCPs or men that think of women as inferior to them.
    @Gyanban- You didn't tell me anything I don't already know.
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  9. Perfect! Onwards and upwards. :-)
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  11. Nice blog you have here. However, can I just say, feminism is wrongly equated to hating men. Feminism is about equal rights for both sexes. But yes, I do hate the MCPs! :) And glad you realised that only certain men are worth hating! Nice blog you have here...
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  13. Nice post... Yet you failed to convince that you're a feminist. I don't think you are one either.

    I think Feminists try to exalt superiority or equality of females rather than talk about the possible peaceful co-existence of men n women :) You have spoken about it. Also you do wish to grow up old with some guy which is very unlike feminists :)
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  14. Nice post... Yet you failed to convince that you're a feminist. I don't think you are one either.

    I think Feminists try to exalt superiority or equality of females rather than talk about the possible peaceful co-existence of men n women :) You have spoken about it. Also you do wish to grow up old with some guy which is very unlike feminists :)
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